When it comes to dating, there is a lot of information floating about the web about what you should do- how to dress, what to talk about, where to go, what to eat-and while such information is actually correct, the best time to be truly yourself is on a first date. Since the first date is when you should really try to create a lasting impression, we can all agree that there are things that you should never do or speak about; and this applies to either side. Below are some of the things that should never be done while you are on your first date.
Avoid Being Wishy-Washy
Don’t be that person who always screws things up because you cannot stand for what you believe in. For starters, everyone dislikes pushovers. If your date suggests that you should have sushi on your first date and it so happens that you don’t eat fish, make that fact known before the date. The same applies if your date wants to hang out at a cocktail joint and you are aware that you don’t drink. It becomes weirder if you are silent about it and only speak out while you are seated and waiting to order. The same applies to decisiveness. If you are asked to choose what you will have, don’t ask your date to choose for you or dismiss the offer with a statement indicating that you can settle for anything. Speaking out about what you want is a sign of confidence.
Don’t Show up Late
There are conflicting theories about showing up late particularly when it comes to women but if you want to create a positive first impression, Never show up late on your first date. Some women are convinced that showing up a few minutes later somehow improves their self-worthiness as it shows that they are not too eager. However, this is far from the case. Your date will judge your character based on the small things that happen before and after the date. For men, showing up late is a big no. It is perceived to be a sign of disinterest in the whole thing.
Don’t be too attached to Your Phone
This happens mostly among ladies. The compulsive act of checking your phone after every few minutes is the ultimate deal breaker. Actually, there is nothing more annoying than talking to a person who is also talking to a different person who is not even there. It is commonplace for people to place their cell phones on the table. However, it is rude when you keep responding to every alert, text, or vibration. If you know that your phone will distract you, keep it in a place where it does not distract you from the present conversation. An occasional glimpse when you go to the bathroom is allowed.
The whole idea of a first date is to allow you be yourself. That is the moment you show your partner who you truly are. The success of the date guarantees a second date, a third and even a relationship. The secret here is:
DON’T OVERSELL YOURSELF.