If you’re anything like me, you’re always trying to find the balance to work and play. And, yes, that woman you married is still waiting for some of your devoted time. No checking emails, no work-related anything. If you work from home, or if you’re just in constant demand even when you leave the office, there’s an unbalanced feeling that’s rippling across your life like an earthquake. Here’s how to fix all of that.
Distancing Yourself Slowly
Toss the frog in boiling water, and he’s going to jump out. You need to gradually shift gears so you don’t fall off of one side. You can’t expect your actual office hours to change; the best flexibility is when your office is on the other side of the house. When you’re at home and you’re still answering emails, or after your predisposed work schedule for you at-home workers, you’re not just spending “a few minutes” taking care of business. Whether it’s your boss or your employees, you need to set a boundary. Perhaps there is someone else who can also answer questions if it’s urgent, or simply shut off your Wi-Fi until the next day. Leave those emails alone, and spend some time with the one who’s always there for you.
Easier Said Than Done
If you’re working a demanding job, it can absolutely take a toll on you, and your marriage. It’s hard to maintain that balance between your own sanity and maintaining everything with the missus. That being said, it’s easier said than done to simply stop responding to email, or swipe to ignore a phone call. It’s an effort. You need to speak with your team/boss, and state a time that your phone is going to be off. If they need anything after you leave, they have a limited window to call you. If you do this properly, all of your phone calls could come through during your commute home, allowing you to not only relax, but to throw on a suit and take her out to dinner.
It Doesn’t Have To Cost You
If you’re working a highly-demanding job and not getting paid enough, welcome to 2017. You don’t have to dish out a major amount of cash to have an excellent evening with your wife. If you have kids, get a local sitter for two hours; grab a six pack and throw on Netflix. Just relaxing together and watching a movie can be one of the best things for both of you. Dinner and a movie used to be the big date plan, remember?
- Netflix Subscription: $9.99
- Six Pack: $10.99
- Babysitter: $20.00
- Spending an evening with your wife: I’ll let you fill in the blank.