How to escape

Disclaimer: I didn’t run away. I have no experience in escaping. I’m not planning on disappearing, but if I did, this is how I’d do it.

Imagine this. You’re laying on the hammock, smoking a cigar, having a drink right next to your mobile home. You have a new job in which you control your schedule and whether you work or not. You are the boss. People always say you only have one life to live, but they never specify how many identities you can have. This plan is your chance to start a new life with a clean slate and no trace of your previous life. The following are some of the precautions to accomplish this plan effectively.

1- Never mention your plan or share any hints of leaving to anyone. Live your life as usual as you plan. This step takes time to prepare, and it’ll be worth the patience. Don’t even tell family or friends. The idea is to disappear without anyone knowing why or how.


2a- if you want to stay in the states, you’ll need a different ID. Make sure when you browse the internet that you do it in a library or public computer, instead of your own. Look for services that offer fake IDs and get one from the state(s) you’re interested in residing.


2b- if you’re leaving the country, you’ll need to get a passport with the fake ID. Pass through a neighboring country that you’re planning on staying for good. The neighboring country is the bridge to your end destination.


3- Save enough money to buy your bus/home with cash and use your fake ID if needed. When you buy it, furnish it and prepare it for the day of your escape. You can store it with a family (not yours) that has land and pay them a small monthly rent. Look for a small town nearby. This suggestion helps you avoid using ID and attract any suspicion. This step takes a while too so hang tight, save enough cash and don’t put it in a bank. It’s recommended to place the money where nobody can find it but you. Sometimes within a wall or behind a frame are famous places but nowadays overlooked. An old pair of boots or wrapped in clothes you don’t wear would be other options.


4- Find work that can be done remotely from your mobile home. You’ll be leaving everything behind including your bank accounts, credit cards tied to your name and your car. Everything. Don’t let anybody think you ran away by clearing a bank account or overspending on a credit card. Don’t spend anything out of the ordinary during your plan of escape. Live a healthy life until you’re ready to hit the road after work.


5- Purchase a non-smartphone or if you want a smartphone, get one that’s pre-paid and not tied to your name or address. If you have a laptop to work remotely, you’ll likely not need a smartphone. Save some money on that and stick to a computer for income.


6- Create new email accounts for your remote work and computer. You’ll need to format your laptop to make sure all data and tracking for your current name have disappeared. Leaving without a trace is not an easy task if you’re planning on using technology so you’ll need to make sure anything that can track you and let someone else know you’re alive gets deleted.


7- Don’t do it! Instead of draining your energy in hiding from the world that surrounds you, focus on fixing your current one and start enjoying it with your real name. If you feel you need to move, go for it. If you haven’t been honest with someone and you feel like you’re not entirely happy, talk. Speak up! Don’t be afraid of the outcome if you’re fair and reasonable with yourself.



The best father day gift

Fathers day in 2018 lands on Sunday, June 17 and despite many other websites telling you to buy the perfect gifts for dad, I have one solution that won’t cost you anything.


Give him a day off


The reasoning behind this is simple. Dads do not need gifts, they want time. We don’t want another tie, we want to minimize our belonging and experience a bit of fresh air, or a cigar with a favorite whiskey at hand. You could give him a bottle of 12-year-old scotch but he probably already has one. There’s always room for another cigar or a bottle of whiskey, but that’s just a teaser to wanting a day off to enjoy these. Us dads are constantly concerned about how to provide and provide enough for our family, it’s an everyday struggle and a long-term investment that never ends. We want to pack all the activities possible that will someday provide a chunk of our kids’ college or the possibility of giving moms the option to stay at home if they wanted to. You’ll have to command us to take the day off. We won’t stop working unless you take away our laptop, command us to go have a smoke and a drink, cook us a nice steak with our favorite trimmings and lay on the hammock you bought us last year.


Want to give a little extra? Fix him an Old-Fashioned or a Negroni.


The Negroni Recipe

“The Negroni is an iconic Italian cocktail, made of one part gin, one part vermouth rosso, and one part Campari, garnished with orange peel. It is considered an apéritif”. – Wikipedia


Old Fashioned Recipe (from Serious Eats):

  • 1 teaspoon (5g) superfine sugar (or 1 sugar cube)
  • 2 to 3 dashes bitters (Angostura is traditional and works well; Fee Brothers’ Whiskey Barrel-Aged Old Fashioned Bitters are better)
  • 2 ounces (60ml) bourbon or rye whiskey.
  • Orange peel and/or cherry, to garnish (optional)



5 worst website business practices

The internet is full of significant and valuable information. There’s also many hooks and sales techniques that here at Fourteen Robots loathe from other sites. These techniques are meant to record your email to get you to subscribe to their newsletter, or deliver more information to you. They’re trying to keep you on their site for a bit longer to avoid high bounce rates. Without much more intro, here’s the list of things that we suggest you stop doing to start gaining more readers and keep them coming back.

  1. Hover over pop-up: This creates a pop-up as your mouse hovers over the top towards the address bar or the back button. The pop-up requests your email or asks you to sign up to receive valuable information. This technique gets very annoying as you already decided to leave the site. It’s a well-known sales tactic that relates to “are you sure you want to miss out on this awesome deal I have in store for you?”
  2. “Continue to the site” link: I’m going to call out for doing this. Every time I click on an article, the first thing that I see is what looks like a curtain behind what I wanted to read. It’s like saying “Before you read the article you chose to read, here’s something we want to show you.” The Quote of the day even shows up when you go to with a link to “Continue to the site.” Find an alternative to avoid any disruptions or extra clicks.
  3. Subscription pop-up in the middle of your reading: You’re reading this great content, you’re learning something and in comes this pop-up asking if you’re interested in receiving more great to your inbox. Stop the interruptions and let us read in peace. I’ve steered clear from these sites as soon as I’m done reading the articles.
  4. Slow page loading: This issue is the main reason people leave your site and create high bounce rates. Slow page loading shouldn’t be an issue with high-speed internet readily available in most homes, but unfortunately, it’s still an issue with high traffic sites. This problem is mostly due to the number of ads with gifs, videos, and images not optimized for the web. Please make your site load fast a priority. If you encounter this on our site, please don’t hesitate to let us know and we’ll get right on it.
  5. Page 2 to keep reading the same article: Some sites focus more on ads than content, and we get it. You’re trying to monetize with more impressions than actual ads that take more effort to attain. We know why you decided to go with his technique. However, when we come across these sites that make us click on a second page to keep reading or to see the next photo slide, we click away. It’s a waste of a readers time, especially when we’re looking for fast chunks of information or entertainment. Clicking and waiting for the next page to load is not something that a visitor should experience. The internet is not a magazine, put all your content on one page or gallery, and you’ll have us coming back for more next time you post new content.


To keep this site positive, here is a list of five pages we keep going back to that deserve a good mention. We hope we get a mention from them sometime too, but it’s ok if we don’t.





How to best spend your Memorial Weekend

My family and I know that “Old Glory” does not wave by accident. We have lost loved ones to war. Memorial Day is special.

Memorial Day is for remembering the sacrifices made by others – for us – for our continued freedom. But I believe the day should also be used to create new memories.

Having lost family to war, I believe I can put this particular holiday in perspective. It is a day, in fact, an entire weekend, for us to accomplish two things: remembering and appreciating the ultimate sacrifice made by others and exercising those won freedoms in a way that creates fond memories with those we still have to love.

Memorial Day should undoubtedly be more meaningful than only a three day weekend or mini-vacation. It is a sacred day of remembrance, but it should also be a time for the living to celebrate each others company while time permits. I especially like to surround myself with family and friends on this day, or even on this entire weekend, to celebrate what we (still) have because of those who gave their lives.

Memorial Day was born out of the horror of war – first the Civil War – and now for all those who have departed as a result of the war. The purpose of this holiday may seem to be fading from some peoples’ consciousness. Is it now only a three-day vacation? Is it merely the unofficial start to summer and the barbecue season? Is it an excuse to go shopping since many businesses promote Memorial Day sales? Has the original meaning of the day been lost?

My family and I know that “Old Glory” does not continue to wave by accident. We take time throughout the Memorial Day weekend to remember the fallen. We go to the cemeteries and place the flags. Old Glory flies at half mast at home. We tell stories, some sad – some happy, about those that cannot be at our family party. We remember them with reverence.

We also remember my first husband’s last words as his Cobra helicopter was on fire and about to explode: “Tell my family I love them. Tell them to live for me.”

So, my family and I celebrate our freedom – and life. We live our lives together. We do this best by being together and enjoying great recipes and the food they create.

One of the things my family and I do is talk about how to support our troops today. We put together a “care package” or two or three or four. We send the packages to soldiers somewhere in this world. We don’t care where they are stationed or what branch of the service they serve.

As one soldier wrote recently, “All soldiers need the simple knowledge of one thing; someone must want them to come home. If a soldier has that, he may be able to make it through anything!”

After the package(s) are wrapped and sent, we do as ordered by our missing loved ones – we celebrate with food and beverage and memories – and we create new memories to be enjoyed forever (see link below). What a gift they have given us!

Now You Enjoy! Live your lives wellScience Articles, celebrate and remember. These Memorial Day Recipes will help guarantee you and your family a memorable day.



6 Great Places to pop the question in New York

There cannot be a better place to pop the question other than the greatest city in the world, New York. In its centuries of existence, New York has stolen the show from classic Europe by being a modern city fusing the old and the new. The majestic beauty, the racial tolerance and integration, the street parties, and the artificial structures are already appealing for anyone to pop the question in front of all of New York. But we all know that is not possible as the city of over 8 million is too big and we are so small on its face.

With thousands of romantic places scattered all over the city, we have a few places that you might consider.


  1. The St, Patrick’s Cathedral

The Spiritual Center of 33% of New Yorkers is not only a site to behold but also a structure of beauty and opulence that brings the medieval age of Gothic romance to the romance of the modern times. You can either pop the question after a short prayer at the pews, the many statues around, the nave, or even at the facade. The somber mood will most likely make her say Yes! Who wouldn’t?


  1. The Met Cloisters

There are many proposal spots at this medieval-like structure near the Hudson River and the Fort Tyron Park. You could initiate a play at the romantic garden and hold her waist as she wrestles you jovially. When it is time to catch her breath, take her hand and lead her to those cloisters. Look right in her eye and pop the question, the aura of the place will do the rest for you.


  1. Flushing Meadow-Corona Park

This site has a fascination to it. Besides, there are so many hot spots that you can pop the question. It is effortless to convince your lover to accompany you anywhere in the park bustling in sceneries and hot spots. To get started, you might consider a picnic date at the shores of the Willows lake or even the creek or river.


  1. Prometheus statue-Rockefeller Centre

At first sight of the statue, any person will forget about the ups and downs of life and drift to a utopia of a perfect Greek world. The golden statues will exhilarate the spirit and awaken the feelings of romance from deep inside the most hard-hearted person. It’s no wonder that marriage proposals are a regular sight at the beautiful place.


  1. Governors Island

This island is car-free, and there are displays of arts and cultures. Romance is all about detaching yourself and your lover from realities of life to ideal stress-free world happiness of just two people. You will be able to connect with your loved one from a perspective that is unachievable in a bustling place.


  1. Gallow Green

Forget about the name! (A Scottish place where witches were hanged in the 17th century). Gallow greens are the place that your gal will like and fall head over heels for you. The site has occasional bands, comedians and art performers whom you can request to help you out by singing a song in honor of your lady. Afterwards, you can party through the night while looking at the beautiful city landscape below.


Before popping the question

You should visit the place of choice prior to the big day. You can notify the management for precautionary purposes. One last thing, forget Central Park, it’s overkill.



We’re switching from Apple to Google. Here’s why.

As an Apple Family with two MacBook Pros, an AppleTV, two iPhones, and a few discontinued iPods, we enjoy our devices to the fullest and have taken advantage of what these products offer. We’re a techie family, but we’re not Apple die-hard fans. We simply figured out what would work best for us and went from there.

Now that we’ve experienced the Apple craze and have seen what Apple is offering with their iPhone X and the Apple HomePod, we’re not impressed.


My wife and I have been discussing automating our home and it was easy to see Google Home and Amazon Alexa are in the title fight. Apple HomePod isn’t even making an appearance at the match. Bringing the plethora of Google apps with it, the Google Home mini caught our attention as the frontrunner immediately.

With a bit of research, you’ll find out what everybody and their mother seems to already know. Apple keeps a tight ship on what is and isn’t allowed to be controlled by their own devices. HomePod is certainly falling behind on compatibility and Siri, no matter how well we speak, cannot understand what we really want it to do. I’ve said it in a recent tweet, and let it be on the record that, if at some point Apple launches their own search engine like Google, things will get interesting.


Ultimately, we purchased not 1, not 2, but 4 Google Home Minis to start the switch. We struggled a bit with the setup and using the Home app, but with a little patience, we picked it up and have become familiar with it. It has opportunity for us to use 3rd party apps easily and even a chance to learn to develop our own. Plus the fact that the speakers sync nicely and, even as small as they are, have a nice sound while playing music. Our toddler also loves asking “Goo-goo” to make different animal sounds!

Our next switch will come with the Google Pixel with Google’s Project Fi which, in our techie heads, seems reasonably on par with the quality of an iPhone. It has all we need to get the job done. We might not be ready to give in on our MacBook Pro’s, but we’ll see how the Chromebooks continue to advance. Google is not going anywhere and their portfolio of apps just keeps growing in our everyday use. From Docs replacing Microsoft Word, to note taking, shopping list and even controlling our garage with a combination of IFTTT, Google is slowly taking place in our phones and gadgets.



John Ebersole – Life: Neat

Every now and then we come across talented people and we sit back and enjoy their work. Then, at the end when it’s all over and they’re packing up, we approach them, tip our hats, tip their jar and ask for an interview. In this case, we trully enjoyed the sounds and lyrics of the talented John Ebersole who endulged us with an awesome laid back rhythm as our Fourteen Robots enjoyed over brunch. John happily agreed with the interview, we asked a few questions and got his reply. Below is the near raw, hardly edited Q&A on his path towards a career in the entertainment & music industry.


Typically, one chooses a career related to our parents, friends or by push from a key element in our lives. How did you know you wanted to be in the music business?

Ever since my family had me taking piano lessons at age 8 that was when I knew music would be in my future. It wasn’t until they let me choose drums as my instrument that I knew I wanted it to be a career path. Even then, however, what path in music I would be taking was unclear. When I was 18 I taught myself guitar and would write songs when I should have otherwise been studying for school or doing homework. I would sit out on the balcony of the college dorms playing my songs to whomever the burnt-out student meandering along that would stop and listen. Once I started hearing things like ‘Hey your songs are really good’ or the encoring smile and request for more, this is when I knew I wanted to pursue songwriting and the goal of being the transcendent rock star (still is my goal!)


Did you ever think you could be something else other than a composer or songwriter?

I had dreams of being a professional skateboarder, and as a skater I would paint and design my own skateboard decks which led to hopes of being a professional artist (painter/illustrator kind of thing.) My father was self-employed my whole life and I knew that I could do something without having to pursue the traditional corporate career path. I knew I wanted to be my own boss and to do so within a creative field.


No business is easy; every business owner knows there will be sweat, tears or hurdles to go through. What has been the hardest part of your career so far?

I find one of the hardest things to do in music today is being and distinguishing yourself in a sea full of other musicians. With the internet having opened up so much access to mountains of music and a variety of genres, you must be the best you that you can be. Ever since I started performing at venues I only play my own original songs. I get questioned as to why I don’t play cover songs at times. Also, after a few venues quit booking me because I didn’t play cover songs I started to question it. This was after about 2 years of performing just my songs. Soon after I started planning a few covers to bring into my set-list, but then I stumbled across a Kurt Cobain journal containing his quote (in reference to learning cover songs)…


‘Do your own thing. Others own their own thing. If you copy too much, you’ll find yourself in late night cocktail lounge cover band limbo. … I decided that in order to become a big famous rock star, I would need to write my very own songs instead of wasting my time learning other peoples music too much. It may act as an obstruction in developing your very own personal style.’ –Kurt Cobain


Well, that was that. I totally dropped the notion of trying to bring cover songs in. For me its not about the immediate income from smaller venues/bars but rather the long-term longevity of me as a songwriter. I’ve always seen those guys playing at local bars, they’ve been at the same bars for 30 years. Kurt smacked me in the head with that brutal truth. I will not be at the same venues in 30 years. Not only that, but product differentiation is key in the music industry and playing originals enables you to definitely bring something entirely new to the listeners.


Unless you’re still working on a solution for the hurdle mentioned above, what worked to get you through?

Staying focused on those who already like my music. Hearing the new listeners at venues say they truly enjoyed the show. I keep on writing. If there is an energy gap in my performances, say not having enough upbeat songs for earlier daytime shows, I just go write something fitting for my next project. Just to never giving up on things. Keep refining, writing, and pressing forward.


First time we heard you was at brunch at 3009 Bar & Restaurant (at H-E-B.) How do you pick your venues or what’s the typical process of booking any gigs? If you were mentoring a rookie musician, what would be the step by step process you’d recommend based on your experience.

This is a 2 part question. When booking shows it is important to find your market. Everyone who finds out you play will tell you ‘Hey you should play here, or here, or here…’ and while referrals are key to continued success, it is crucial for you to find the venues where your music’s energy and sound fit.


If I were to ask you, what kind of setting is going on within your music? Where does your music take the listener? Are you on a deserted country road? Are you soaring through space? Are you working out? Is Godzilla pillaging through the streets? Are you on the beach sipping your choice beverage? (That one tends to be where about half of my songs take you.)

Finding venues which compliment that energy/setting are important.


After that, referrals from that venue to others will be the most beneficial. Searching for places which have your music’s energy and environment is the most important thing for performing and recordings.


We at Fourteen Robots believe that a camera is just as effective as its users knowledge of the camera. It doesn’t matter if it’s a $150 or $25K camera (they exist); the important factor is the user. What’s your opinion on a guitar? Is it the same concept? How do you pick your instrument? By cost, features, capabilities, looks, popularity, nostalgia?

I agree totally with the idea that the user is more important than the equipment. I started performing with a $60 guitar at my shows, now I play with a $1000 guitar. Sure I may have gotten better over the years, but I still received compliments on both. The only difference, is I like playing a handmade, quality instrument, and some would say the latter sounds better. So while yes, it is the user that makes the project, the equipment could enable the user to be even better recognized for what they are doing in both perception and execution. But ultimately the user is the star.


Touching a bit on your songwriting: you wrote about Two Guys. Although not mentioning specifics, you simply stated they shouldn’t have taken that ride. Inspiration can come in many different forms. Do you mind sharing where yours comes from?

My inspiration does come from everywhere. Music is where I communicate feelings. I’m very objective in the way I think, so being emotionally involved in things is not at forefront. You will hear a lot of hurt, love, life questioning, and frustration in my lyrics. The sounds behind the lyrics can be just as gut-wrenchingly beautiful. Music feels for me.


Two Guys specifically is actually kind of an interestingly inspired track. A friend of mine and I were performing at a venue in Helotes; everyone drinking, myself included, having a great time. It dawned on me that some of the crowd was a bit overly enjoying their liquids. Next thought was, ‘Oh, we all have to drive home in 30 minutes when this place closes, and half of these people are trashed.’ I laughed for a second at how strange the concept of going out and getting intoxicated was, leaned over to my friend and said ‘Hey, I’m going to make this song up real quick.’ And that was Two Guys—a song about the relentless idea of going out and getting intoxicated with a daunting drive home after. MADD would eat that up.


You know the old debate on what came first? The chicken or the egg? In your case, what comes first, music or lyrics?

For me I always seem to write the music first. This is the raw form of emotional communication for me. I get all I’m feeling out into the music, and then interpret what I’m feeling for listeners. I also tend to leave my lyrical meanings a bit ambiguous so it can be transferrable between persons without too much specificity in life setting.


Would you recommend a school or any training when it comes to songwriting, learning the guitar?

Schools are great, but when it comes down to it, its all about self-exploration and learning to communicate. Pick up the guitar, are you happy about something? Play something happy. Are you angry or distraught? Play that. If you can master communicating your internal to the external, that’s where the real magic happens. Though it wouldn’t hurt to research some chords or scales on the web to figure out exactly what you’re doing. The real progress is made when you put in the time with your instrument. Start playing, you can figure out what you’re doing later.


What’s your short and long term goal in your career? Is there a path you have written down or is it all in your head?

I have a business plan somewhere I wrote a while back. I have it pretty memorized. It always changes a little bit, but the approach and the goals are the same.


Short term I am about to release a new album, so this is my focus. Giving everything I have to the album itself (music, lyrics, recordings, solos, album art, etc.) and then fully dedicating to the promotion of it (new gigs, marketing overall, and distribution.)


Long term I am looking to be renown in the industry. I want to reach a significant enough audience out there to where when I release a new album or project, people are excited to see what its all about. I just love sharing with others what I have to offer. I had a friend tell me he had an amazing date night the other day, and that it ended with listening to my music on the way home together. I want to do that on a large scale. I love setting the tone for people’s lives through music.


You mentioned you’re a web designer as well. Any other ventures you currently hold? Do any of these feed or fuel your singer/songwriting career?

Yes I do graphic and web design for myself and several other clients. Have been doing this for about 5 years. I also have an organic pet treat startup company in Los Angeles called Fast Pet Food. We are about to launch our flagship product within the year. I’m also an investor in the markets, have been for 10 years. I feel I need to keep my hands in multiple projects to stay on top of bills, provide the freedom to pursue the music career path, and to stay busy during any downtime.


Your new album is about to hit Spotify and other venues, our Fourteen Robots Salute You. How long did it take you from concept to finished product? Any setbacks you experienced?


“Life: Neat” This project has been a journey. It is the first project I am doing where I don’t do everything on the album. I am finally working with a very skilled sound engineer, and other instrumentalists in creating the sounds of it all. I have experienced setbacks with life scheduling (for myself and others), dedication and commitment out of artists, and working outside of my house. The project has taken about 3 months thus far, and we’re looking to wrap it up in the next month. So it’s a 4 month project for me. Sometimes I have been known to knock out an album in 2 weeks. So for me this is a longer time-frame to be working on one project. But, I must say the result is going to be phenomenal in the array of the John Ebersole collection.


Any advice you’d like to share as a business owner?

Never give up. If you have an idea, it is possible. Keep pushing forward towards your goals. Any other cliché quotes I can throw out there that work?




Listen to John Ebersole on iTunes or Spotify. Visit his page at



What is time well worth?

Often, dads believe they are doing their best as a parent by working to put food on the table and buying clothes and other necessities for their kids, maintaining the house their kids live in, cutting the yard for the kids to play in, etc. But, what about actually being with your family? A good balance must be created as early as possible in your relationship with your kids (and wife, but that’s a different article). A simple suggestion to add some quality time with your kids is to take advantage of the little times; reading a story to them just before bedtime, playing with them in the morning in the few spare minutes before leaving for work, or just simply talking and singing with them while driving them to school or daycare. You can also take advantage of the tough times and find a way to “play through.” We all know kids are learning to cope and, as parents, so are we. Don’t get me wrong. There are definite times for discipline, but many times, your kids just don’t know how to react to new or changing situations and we, by example, are teaching them how to cope.

This morning, my daughter was crying for what most parents will consider no good reason. She wanted to ride in the “big go”, which she calls our SUV, instead of the “little go”, which she calls the sedan and is what I usually take her to daycare in. She cried through half the drive and I wanted to yell so bad, but I know better and I know that my daughter will just cry louder. What was my solution as a dad, you ask? I started asking my daughter questions about school. I asked her what she’d like to do at school, what games she likes to play with her friends, who’s her best friend or teacher? This calmed her down by thinking of the answers and created a bit of a conversation which lead to a better ride. My daughter is two and a half at this time and her answers are short and sometimes limited to her growing vocabulary, but it truly helps take the edge off and sometimes gives me a good laugh.

When I got home from work, again, grumpy moody daughter wanted to watch cartoons instead of going to bed. We negotiated with a book and some water. All in all, we had a bit of fun with a new book and truly enjoyed the evening with an “I love you, DadDad” just before my wife took her to bed. This is not our nightly routine, (crying over cartoons) but when it comes up, it is good to know there are ways to work through the trying times with your children. You have to take into consideration what is bothering them and if anything has changed in their routine. My wife usually reads to our daughter and then takes her to bed after I get a good night hug and “I love you.” Sometimes, my wife has other things that have to happen during bedtime and it can make for major crises in our daughter’s point of view.

The point of this story is to balance your time. Spend time with your kids. I’m not saying I’m perfect, actually nowhere near. We all have work to do, goals to accomplish, and a mile long to-do list. That’s what comes with being a parent. You can either take this with a grain of salt and keep doing what you do, or you can take our advice and play all the way.



Complete Love

Not all romantic relationships can be considered to possess complete love. It was Yale University psychology professor Robert Sternberg whose famous Triangular Theory expounded upon the three integral components of love.

First of all, a couple must exhibit Intimacy, which is described as the closeness and openness between them. This is exemplified in best friends who have no reluctance to share their concerns, weaknesses, and dreams. They accept each other without judgment. Communication is the necessary key to intimacy.

The second component is Passion. This is the physical attraction between the couple. It is the desire for physical closeness exhibited through hand-holding, embracing, kissing that should eventually lead to sexual congress. This attraction is necessary because it magnifies the bond between the couple.

The third essential component is Commitment. This is the decision of the couple to stay faithful to each other. It is the continuing choice to remain loyal exclusively with the view of maintaining the relationship.

It is necessary that couples examine their relationships whether or not they possess Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment. Absent any of theseArticle Submission, the couple cannot claim to have Complete Love. And an incomplete love is almost surely expected to fail. Couples are therefore encouraged to nurture all three components in order that the relationship remains healthy and lasting.


About the author

Frederick Fabella, Ph.D. is a graduate and undergraduate professor in the Philippines. He is an editorial board member of the IRP international research journal and a Fellow of the Royal Institution Singapore. He is the author of Transcendence: Essays For Personal Reflection. His blog can be found at Meanings and Perceptions.

Is Teaching Critical Thinking Skills Important?

Teaching critical thinking skills is imperative to a child’s development. Education today needs to focus more on critical thinking, creativity, and curiosity in order to prepare children for the jobs of the future.

In today’s technological and rapidly changing world, children need to be able to assimilate data and demonstrate critical thinking skills versus repeating a list of facts from memorization. Children need to be thinking for themselves and asking the what now follow up question; these skills are what employers today and tomorrow are looking for.  The ability to analyze a situation or problem is important skills that demand from employers will only grow as we continue to adopt technology throughout our lives.

Kids need to be critical thinkers who can make sense of information, analyze, compare, contrast, make inferences, and demonstrate higher order thinking skills. As a parent, our role is to ask our children open-ended questions that guide the thinking process.  This allows our kids to explore and expand their curiosity.

In other instances, it may be more appropriate to experiment with your child; this is easily done with science experiments, cooking lessons, arts and crafts and more.  This allows our children to refine their theories on what why things happen; defining cause and effect. Engaging with your child and facilitating the critical thinking process can have a positive an impact on them.

In other instances, it may be more applicable to encourage your child to experiment and refine their theories on cause and effect.  To experiment and through experimenting develop the cause and effect of what happened. Guiding your child’s critical thinking process can have a positive an impact on their problem-solving skills and leads to greater creativity and curiosity.

Critical thinking is a developed ability to analyze information to distinguish its veracity or truth. In our rapidly evolving technologically driven world, more detail and information is available at our fingertips than we could ever need. The issue is that not all of that information is correct and it can be effortless to get influenced into believing something that is not factual or real. This is one example of where critical thinking skills guide us.

How do you develop critical thinking skills in your children? Here are some tips and ideas to help children build a foundation for critical thinking:

  • Provide ample opportunities for play
  • Pause and wait, let your child evaluate the situation, a parents role is to guide them
  • Do not intervene immediately
  • Ask open-ended questions
  • Help children develop hypotheses or the cause and effect
  • Encourage critical thinking in new and different ways


A few practical ways to introduce critical thinking activities to your kids:

  • Encourage pursuits of curiosity. As parents, we tend to dread “why” phase. However, we need to allow our children to form and test theories, experiment and understand how the world works. We need to inspire our kids to expand their curiosity, their creativity and explore, to ask questions, to test their ideas, think critically about results and reflect on alterations or adjustments that they can incorporate.  Encourage them on things they could make or things they could do differently to instill critical thinking skills.
  • Learn from others.  By instilling a love of learning, we help our children to think more deeply about things, to grow a desire to comprehend how things work. We need to teach children to look for the answers to their “why” questions using the internet, books, experiments, arts and crafts, building models, from friends, family and play activities.
  • Help children evaluate information. Thinks about this, how often we are given a lot of information at a time, and it is important we assess that information to determine if it is valid, necessary and whether or not we should believe it. We need to assist our children with learning these skills by showing them how to evaluate new information. We need to give them the opportunity to analyze where ideas and information originate, how it relates to what they already know and if it is or is not important.
  • Promote children’s interests. When children are deeply vested in a subject or pursuit, they are engaged and want to experiment. The process of expanding their knowledge base is an opportunities to develop critical thinking skills.  As parents, we need to encourage this activity and facilitate our child’s interests. Be it learning how a 3d model can stand up to how a car engine works or a keen interest in bugs or in programming a simple game as parents we need to encourage our kids to follow their interest and passion.
  • Teach problem-solving skills. Everyone has problems or conflicts in their lives, and kids are no different. Critical thinking skills are essential to develop to understand the problem and develop possible solutions; we need to teach kids the steps of problem-solving to use with critical thinking to utilize as an effective problem-solving process.
  • Provide opportunities for play. Curiosity and experimenting with how things work are crucial to developing critical thinking. It is during play that children learn cause and effect. What happens if I mix water and baking soda?  How do I build a water wheel and how does this create electricity?  How does a mini dancer work?  Can I add a block to balance on the top of a tower? By providing indoor and outdoor space for playing, along with time for the pretend play and development of critical thinking skills.  These activities allow opportunities for open-ended questioning and for your child to experiment to see the reaction – cause, and effect.  Then move on to try something else and see if they can create a different result. Hands-on experiments and experiences are an integral foundation for abstract critical thinking that is required in life.
  • Pause and wait. Giving your child generous time to think, experiment with a task, or develop a response is critical, and not necessarily easy to do. As parents, we need to have patience and Tallow our kids the time to ponder and think, before we intervene or speak. This gives kids an opportunity to reflect on their response and refine, rather than answering with the first gut reaction.
  • Don’t intervene immediately. Observe what your child is doing before jumping in. As hard as it may be, avoid finishing or doing the task for them. For younger children, patiently adjusting and manipulate their hands to grasp a toy on their own encourages problem-solving, develops fine motor skills and develops executive functioning skills. For older children, ask open-ended questions taught encourage critical thinking while providing enough information to prevent frustration, but not enough to solve the problem for them.
  • Ask open-ended questions. How many times has your child asked you a question that you could easily answer?  Rather than answers the question, ask them a question in return to help them think critically: “Why do you believe that this happened? What is going on here?” “Who else would know the answer, why would their answer be that?” Even if the answer isn’t correct, respond with “that’s interesting,” and ask “why do you think that is?” “I am interested to hear why you believe that this happens…” “What would you do to solve this problem?”  “How can we find more information to address or answer this?”
  • Help children develop hypotheses. Taking a moment to form hypotheses during play is a critical thinking exercise that helps develop skills. Try asking your child, “What will happen if we do this?” or “Let’s try it and see what will happen next.”
  • Encourage thinking in new and different ways. Allowing kids to think differently, enables their creative problem-solving skills. Ask questions like, “What other ways can we try?”  Encourage your child to develop options by saying, “Let’s think of all the possible ways we could do this.” If as a parent you need to step inArticle Submission, talk through the why of your decision and demonstrate your critical thinking and problem-solving.  This allows kids the opportunity to model your behavior.  Allowing your children to navigate problems allows them to analysis and develop critical thinking skills that will aid them in the long run.




Jessica Miller is the Content Writer for Play2Health – – where she develops content that assists families in raising well-balanced kids who excel.